The Cycle of a Narcissist

Is my partner out to get me or do they have my best interest in mind?

Good morning, beautiful. How are you? I miss you and hope your day has been going well. Can I bring you coffee or lunch to work today? Goodnight, sleep well, my love.

Do these phrases sound familiar? If you’ve been in contact with a narcissist, you may have heard these expressions repeatedly. They all sound great at the beginning of a relationship, but actually, they are part of a plan called “love bombing.”

What is love bombing? It is a common tactic used by a narcissist to hide all their flaws. Later on, when they show their true colors, they will hit you with the love bomb again to pull you back in. After three years of living with and being married to a narcissist, I want to share the lessons I’ve learned.

Lesson 1: If someone is constantly texting and calling you all day, I recommend taking a step back to consider why they are doing this or what their purpose might be. Typically, they are trying to make you feel as though they are the perfect partner. When they slowly pull away, they may expect you to start chasing them. Remember, no one can pretend to be someone they’re not for more than three months.

Lesson 2: If they try to pull you away from your friends and family, they are likely attempting to isolate you to gain more control and room for manipulation. My ex-husband isolated me from everyone—I had no friends and was always terrified to have a good relationship with my family. I now understand that he didn’t want his harmful tactics exposed.

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